Many women may believe that most men are only looking for casual relationships and are not ready for long-term commitment. And that, supposedly, there are men who are only interested in long-term relationships. I dare to say that both of these are myths.

Men do tend to seek casual relationships more often, but that does not mean they are not open to long-term ones. The decision depends entirely on the answer to one question:

"Does this particular man expect that being in a long-term relationship with this particular woman will be better and more comfortable for him than remaining single, as he lives now?"

And it is only how a man answers this question while interacting with a woman that determines what he truly wants with her.

A small remark: for us men, communication in itself is not a benefit, a source of energy, or a pleasure, as it often is for women. We always communicate with a purpose—whether for useful information or knowledge. And in the modern world, one can even converse with artificial intelligence in search of knowledge.

This is to say that when women write in their dating profiles or their objectives, "Just to chat" or "Looking for conversation," it means, in reality, that there is nothing for a man to be interested in. The profile’s objectives should include something that will personally spark the interest of your future partner.

Women often ask online: "In what public places can I meet single men?" Or: "Where can I meet men outside of dating apps?" Or: "How can I meet men in real life?" And many respond by listing all sorts of everyday places—volleyball or climbing clubs, coffee shops, bookshops.

The truth is that, first, single men can be found absolutely everywhere, just like everyone else. Second, to go to a volleyball club, you at least need to be interested in volleyball. And third, there is no guarantee that, once you find yourself surrounded by men in a volleyball club, you will not experience the same difficulties with meeting them that you do now.

So, in reality, the questions should be: How do you recognise that a man wants to approach you and encourage him to do so? How do you prepare yourself for an unexpected approach from a stranger? And, more importantly, how should you behave if you meet a man you like—wherever that may be?